Tuesday, January 06, 2009

"There Once Was a Man Who Loved a Woman..."





Twenty-six years ago today, this man...
















...separated from and soon after divorced this woman...













...causing their two sons, who were rarely apart, to also separate, one living with his father and the other living with his mother.


And even though it was necessary, and life, when they were all together, was, more often than not, filled with the two parents raging against each other, nothing was ever quite the same. Nothing ever is.

This day always makes me extremely sad.

9 comments:

Java said...

:(
I'm sad for you, too.
Seems February 14th always brought bad news and hard times for me. Then (almost) 18 years ago my son was born on February 14th. So now the day brings strong but mixed emotions. I never enjoy it.

Bunny said...

I'm so sorry. I didn't realize you and your brother were raised separately - that must have been very tough, since you didn't have each other there to commiserate with.

This is why I strive to work things out with my husband even when he is a complete asshat. My son had a VERY hard time this summer with the kids and I still living in MI and their dad in SC. Both kids did, but my autistic son really couldn't handle it.

Project Christopher said...

I would have never guessed you and your brother didn't grow up together. you're so close now. It may not help a ton, but if you're blue about today, look at the picture of you and Jeff.... that's enough to overcome the bad. and if THAT'S not enough.... watch the video of him and your mom doing that dance again...

Ian FInley said...

Large and heartfelt hugs for you Stephen.

Also, that picture of you and your brother is, unequivocally, the cutest thing in the universe. It made me smile like a loon.

Aaron said...

I know the feeling of learning your parents are going to divorce. I was 21, and it still made me numb, then sad. There were no brothers or sisters at that time, so at least my parents didn't have that complication on top of the others...

But you and your brother are alike in all the best ways, so obviously you were both raised well! And you can all still tell each other you love each other. That's so important!

Bunny said...

At least the love they had, while it lasted, produced two gawgeous hot men full of creativity and love for their fellow man.

(Take that "love for their fellow man" part as you wish)

transitiongirl2008 said...

I understand the pain of divorce. However, rejoice in the fact that you and your brother are close now. My brother and I, while we lived in the same house and suffered through the same divorce, have VASTLY different memories of the incident, thus leaving us very opinionated in different directions. We are not close today and I'm not sure how that happened.

But enough about me! I believe that because of (and in spite of) the divorce, we are shaped by our experiences and you, my friend, have survived and thrived!

Chris said...

I grew up with my brothers and sister in a family that was happily married... we never hug like that... we're not that close.

Sometimes, you go through a lot of shit to arrive with something wonderful.

Shirley! said...

That is such a wonderful picture of you and your brother! It's obviously filled with love.